Monday, April 15, 2013

Access to Justice Denied: Parental, Family and Organized Child Abduction in Oregon









Access to Justice Denied:
Parental, Family and
Organized Child Abduction in Oregon
By Sean Aaron Cruz
April 12, 2013






Testimony in support of House Bill 2014, sponsored by State Representatives Alissa Keny-Guyer, Brent Barton, Chris Garrett, and Wayne Krieger






“Please tell Sean that I also wish him the best. I have also followed his career and believe his personal experience has given him the wisdom and the moral authority necessary to make a real difference in making Oregon safer for our children.” –Hon. Judge James L. Fun, Washington County Circuit Court, January 24, 2007









Access to Justice Denied: Parental, Family and
Organized Child Abduction in Oregon

I. Oregon’s Custodial Interference I and II statutes
            A. The four statutory barriers to justice
1. “A person” exceptions
                        2. The definition of “protracted”
                        3. “…a substantial risk of illness or physical injury”
                        4. A crime in progress

II. Overview of access to justice in Oregon

III. Finding legal assistance in the wake of an abduction today
A.   The Oregon State Bar
B. The Oregon Judicial Department
            C. The Oregon State Police Missing Children Clearinghouse

IV. The roots of Senate Bill 1041 Aaron’s Law (2005)
            A. The 1996 abduction of Aaron Cruz and his siblings
            B. Legislative history of Aaron’s Law
                        1. Reporting the crime to the Legislative Assembly
                        2. Take Root – Adults who were abducted as children speak
                        3. The 2004 Task Force on Parental and Family Abductions
a. No numbers
b. A broad lack of awareness
c. Some parents use their children as weapons
                                    d. Long-lasting trauma, injury and damage
                                    e. Damage similar to sex crimes against the child
                        4. “Burning Issues in Access to Justice”
                        5. Aaron’s Law in statute: ORS 30.868

V. The principles of Aaron’s Law
            A. Victims in control, not The System
            B. Who you serve and 142 reasons why
            C. Domestic violence exception
D. Counseling for resolution and deterrence
            E. The child victim becomes an adult
            F. Aaron’s Law and child trafficking

VI. Case Study: Aaron’s Law and the Kyron Horman abduction
            A. “There is no case like this.”
            B. Meeting the criteria

VII. Attitudes as Obstacles
            “Your children will find you some day (Don’t worry be happy)”
I. Oregon’s Custodial Interference I and II statutes


Four significant barriers to access to justice and to prevention and resolution of child abduction cases lie in the statutes themselves and in how Oregon law enforcement agencies and the Family and Criminal Law systems interpret the language.


ORS 163.245: “A person commits the crime of custodial interference in the second degree if, knowing or having reason to know that the person has no legal right to do so, the person takes, entices or keeps another person from the other person’s lawful custodian or in violation of a valid joint custody order with intent to hold the other person permanently or for a protracted period.”

ORS 163.257: “A person commits the crime of custodial interference in the first degree if the person violates ORS 163.245 and:
      (a) Causes the person taken, enticed or kept from the lawful custodian or in violation of a valid joint custody order to be removed from the state; or
      (b) Exposes that person to a substantial risk of illness or physical injury.”



A. Four statutory barriers to justice

1. “A person” exceptions: The statutes make no exceptions for the other parent, family members or hangers-on, members of a church congregation enforcing a shunning or any other organized group of persons acting with criminal intent. In actual practice, however, when a parent is involved in the abduction, law enforcement and the Family Law and Criminal Law systems appear to follow a policy of ignoring the other persons who have violated the statute. This highly selective enforcement of the Custodial Interference statutes contributes to the incidence of child abductions. Since it is so unlikely that nonparental persons will be held accountable for their crimes, the statute has little deterrent value, hence the high incidence of parental and family abductions.

HB 2014 should result in an understanding of how and why decisions to make exceptions to the statute are made at the local level, providing the 2014 Legislative Assembly with the opportunity to consider establishing a state policy.

2. “Permanently or for a protracted period”: There appears to be no statewide policy or published local law enforcement directive regarding when the threshold of “protracted” is reached and the Custodial Interference statute is triggered. The dictionary definition of “protracted” is “prolonged.” The absence of a clear definition of “protracted” in statute makes it difficult for law enforcement to act, creating a systemic barrier to the swift resolution of these cases.

HB 2014 should result in an understanding of the range of interpretations of this statute among local law enforcement jurisdictions across Oregon, providing the 2014 Legislative Assembly with the opportunity to consider enacting a statewide policy regarding this critical definition.

3. “Exposes that person to a substantial risk of illness or physical injury.” The real injuries a child victim suffers in an abduction is not recognized in current statute. Although the Legislative Assembly has adopted a policy of mental health parity in health insurance coverage, it is not clear that parity applies to the “substantial risk of illness” component of the custodial interference statutes, and the term “physical injury” explicitly fails to recognize the mental and emotional trauma victims suffer.

The 2004 Senate President’s Interim Task Force on Parental and Family Abductions reported: “…the injury a child receives, when the child has been abducted by one of the child’s parents, does not necessarily include physical injury. The injury is more in the nature of mental trauma or mental injury. Nonetheless, the injury is real and may be even more long lasting and damaging than physical injury.”

Failing to recognize the serious nature of these nonvisible injuries contributes to inaction by law enforcement and the court systems.

HB 2014 should be expected to reveal a deficiency in how abductions are prioritized by law enforcement and both the Family Law and Criminal Law systems. The report will provide the 2014 Legislative Assembly with an opportunity to establish a clear policy regarding the definition of “illness” and “injury” in respect to mental health parity.

4. “A crime in progress”: The Custodial Interference statute does not take into account the fact that abductions are “continuing” crimes. The trauma and loss that victims suffer increases over time, yet law enforcement and both the Family Law and Criminal Law systems routinely fail to treat these case as crimes in progress, which is exactly what they are.

HB 2014, coupled with the Final Report of the Parental and Family Abduction Task Force, should provide the 2014 Legislative Assembly with a better understanding of the Custodial Interference statutes and offer ideas to better protect the interests of Oregon children and their families.






II. Overview of access to justice in Oregon

For more than sixteen years, the Oregon Legislative Assembly has considered the serious problem of public access to competent legal services in the Family Law system:

“In a final report given to the December, 1997 Legislative Assembly, the Oregon Task Force on Family Law articulated the continued unmet and acute demand for assistance dealing with pro se litigants in the court systems. At the request of the Task Force, the Legislature created the Oregon Family Law Legal Services Commission. The charge to this group was to evaluate and report on “how courthouse facilitation and unbundled legal services might enhance the delivery of family law legal services to low and middle-income Oregonians.” During the next four years the Commission gathered both qualitative and quantitative information. They held public monthly meetings, solicited written input from lawyers, litigants, experts in the field, court clerks and all interested parties before drafting the proposal and completing its final work with the recommendations found here.” --Oregon Family Law Legal Services Commission

The majority of Oregonians represent themselves in Family Court. Oregon data indicates that both sides are self-represented in approximately 49% of family law filings.”

“Oregonians now represent themselves in Family Court in 67%-86% of the cases filed. Given the huge demand for legal help in family law matters that nonprofit law firms and the private bar cannot meet, access to justice efforts the last 10 years have concentrated on the statewide availability of model family law forms and procedural assistance from courthouse facilitators. Now, budget cutbacks have led to reductions in existing court services and stalled planning efforts focused on self-representation.” – Executive Summary. Task Force on Family Law

Self-representation in Family Court is a permanent aspect, and the legal system’s response “must be actively planned.”

“While the ultimate goal in access to justice efforts is representation by attorneys, self- representation is a permanent aspect of the family court. As such, the legal system’s response to litigants without lawyers must be actively planned.” – Executive Summary. Task Force on Family Law

Budget pressures and other priorities contribute to reduced access.

“Since 2007, however, significant budget reductions precipitated by the poor economy have stalled energy and funding for both interactive forms and broader self-representation planning. Moreover, some local courts have eliminated or reduced their facilitation programs to preserve resources. Simultaneously, the court’s partners in the access to justice community have continued to struggle with the high unmet demand for family law legal services. The poor economy has placed additional stress on this challenge. In addition, given the enormous public need for family law help, concern has arisen that market-minded entrepreneurs may soon preempt access-oriented, quality-focused legal planners by selling web-based interactive Oregon family law court forms for profit.” –Executive Summary, Task Force on Family Law

Most victims of parental, family and organized child abductions do not have a lawyer at the time of the kidnapping. No Oregon attorney advertises a practice in child abduction crimes.
There are no “model family law forms” for an abduction. Family law forms require service on the other party. In abductions, however, the other parties’ and the victim children’s location is unknown, is likely to be transient, and they may be living under assumed names.

Abductions are always sneak attacks, with planning and execution carried out in secret, and nearly always involving multiple jurisdictions, long distances, more than one perpetrator, and two or more state legal systems.

Persons participating in a parental, family or organized kidnapping will likely have intimate knowledge of the victims’ financial resources, ability to access competent legal assistance and other weaknesses prior to executing the crime.

There are many variations of legal status. The parents of the victim children may be married or unmarried, legally separated or not, divorced or not, with or without custody orders. It may be a grandparent or some other person who is the primary caregiver for the victim children and reporting the crime.

A parent whose children have been abducted is likely to be experiencing severe grief, shock, panic and depression.

HB 2014 will provide the 2014 Legislative Assembly with critical insights into how to improve access to justice “when a child is reported to law enforcement officials as missing by the parent, grandparent or legal custodian of the child” or is brought to Oregon under similar circumstances.


III. Finding legal assistance in the wake of an abduction

Once the victim children have vanished, the victim parent, grandparent or legal custodian reports the commission of a crime to local law enforcement and then looks for competent legal advice.

Prior to the passage of Senate Bill 1041 (Aaron’s Law) in 2005, the only avenues of recourse a victim parent (or grandparent) had were either through the Family Law system or the Criminal Law system. Neither system recognizes the urgency of the situation, the emotional harm the victims are suffering, or the fact that the longer the crime continues, the more extensive and long-lasting the harm.

Neither system provides any point of control for the victims, who become victims of both the crime and of the system itself.

The Family Law and Criminal Law systems are often adversarial and have long built-into-the-process timelines, when the issue is urgent.

Although Senate Bill 1041 (2005) “Aaron’s Law” made Oregon the first state in the nation where child abduction creates a civil cause of action, no information about the law or the Parental and Family Abduction Task Force is presently available through the Oregon State Bar or Oregon State Police web sites.

There is the Yellow Pages and online referral systems, but neither resource is likely to lead to an attorney specializing in child abductions.

A. The Oregon State Bar website contains no information about parental and family abductions. There are no references to the 2004 Parental and Family Abduction Task Force or Senate Bill 1041 (2005), Aaron’s Law.

The “search” feature on the OSB website turns up no information related to Oregon legislation on the subject.

The OSB Legal Information Topics page contains no information related to abductions in the Criminal Law or Family Law categories.

There is no link to the Oregon State Police Missing Children Clearinghouse.

Searches under “personal injury”, “civil suit” and “child abuse” provide no useful links for abduction victims.

B. The Oregon Judicial Department website contains no information about parental and family abductions. There are no references to the 2004 Parental and Family Abduction Task Force or Senate Bill 1041 (2005), Aaron’s Law.

Among the legal forms available on the website, none are related to the issue, in which the whereabouts of the abducted children and the abductors are unknown.

The terms “abduction”, “custodial interference” and “kidnapping” do not appear in the site’s listing of legal terms and definitions.

Under the heading “Family Law Topics”, there is no reference to the crime, and none of the topics link to information about abduction.

There is no link to the Oregon State Police Missing Children Clearinghouse.


C. The Oregon State Police Missing Children Clearinghouse contains no references to the 2004 Parental and Family Abduction Task Force or Senate Bill 1041 (2005), Aaron’s Law.

“The mission of the Missing Children Clearinghouse is to receive and distribute information on missing children to local law enforcement agencies, school districts, state and federal agencies, and the public. In 1989, the Oregon legislature mandated that OSP establish and maintain a missing children clearinghouse.

“The goal of the Missing Children Clearinghouse is to streamline the system, serving child victims and their families by providing assistance to law enforcement agencies and the public.” – Oregon State Police website

It is rare that a missing or abducted child appears on the OSP clearinghouse website if a parent is involved in the abduction. The National Center for Missing and Exploited Children (NCMEC) frequently posts photographs and other information about parentally abducted on its website that are not matched on the Oregon State Police website.

As of this writing, NCMEC lists seven Oregon children as parental/family abductions since 2007, plus Kyron Horman. The OSP site identifies only four of these children, plus Kyron Horman.

There has been discrepancies of as many as 17 children abducted from Oregon who were listed on the NCMEC site but not on the OSP site.

In 2012, the Beaverton Police Department issued a statement identifying more than a dozen police and governmental agencies who assisted in the recovery of a child who had been abducted and taken to New Zealand by his father. The Oregon State Police was not among them, and the child was never listed as abducted on the Missing Children Clearinghouse website.


IV. The roots of Senate Bill 1041 Aaron’s Law (2005)
           
A. The 1996 abduction of Aaron Cruz and his siblings

Aaron Cruz and his three siblings disappeared from Oregon on Feb 12, 1996 despite an order for joint custody that had been in affect for five years. The number of adult persons who took, kept and enticed the Cruz children in violation of the order for joint custody and the Custodial Interference I and II statutes was greater than ten and included the children’s mother, other family members, and members of their church congregation that were unrelated to the victims. Their motivation was to enforce a shunning against the children’s father. The intent of the shunning was to prevent any contact of any kind between the children and their father or members of their father’s family, permanently. The shunning remains in effect today.

The four Cruz children were kept incommunicado and taken to a series of secret locations in Utah, where they were pressured to choose between parents, one to love with all their hearts, and one to despise with equal fervor. Mail sent to my children at their mother’s last known address in Hillsboro was forwarded to the address of a conspiring church member in Hillsboro instead of on to the children.

Abducted children are forced to adhere to whatever cover story their abductors require, are not permitted to grieve their losses, and are likely to lose access to health care during their time on the run. Abductors, acting in their own interest, will work hard to sever all emotional ties the abducted children have to the victim parent.

My children were taken on a journey through three divorces and three stepdads in three states. My fight to locate and recover my children would take me through four jurisdictions in three states, usually pro se, but never with the assistance of an attorney competent in the issue of criminal child abductions.

With a single exception, every court officer, judge, attorney, juror, witness and police officer I encountered through these four jurisdictions was white, as were all of the persons participating in the abduction, and several among them shared membership in the same church congregation enforcing the shunning.

Although the order for joint custody stated that all decisions regarding the children’s education and non-emergency medical care would be made “By Both Parents Together”, I was only able to access two after-the-fact medical reports
for Aaron from Utah, and none for my other three children after they disappeared from Oregon in 1996.

Prior to his abduction from Oregon, Aaron had no history of any serious illness or injury. The first medical report for Aaron was an intake report dated a year after his abduction began. He had been hospitalized for expressing suicidal ideation. The report described him as severely depressed, underweight, and noted many long scars from self-inflicted knife wounds across both of his upper arms. The report quoted him as saying he cut himself to relieve his emotional pain.

The second medical report I received from Utah about Aaron was his death certificate, which stated that he had died from “undetermined causes.” He may have been a suicide—there was a note—but it is also likely that he had run out of his anti-seizure meds, suffered a seizure, fell into a coma and died.

When my three living children and I gathered around Aaron in the Intensive Care Unit in Payson, Utah, in April 2005, where he lay comatose, it was the first time the five of us were together since the abduction/shunning began in 1996.

Over the course of several days, from arriving at the hospital to Aaron’s funeral service, my three surviving children and I spent many hours together, and it appeared that we would re-establish our relationships going forward.

My son Tyler, a member of the Utah Army National Guard, invited me to see him off on his second tour to Iraq several weeks after Aaron’s death, and we spent five days together at Camp Shelby, Mississippi. Tyler called me from Kuwait and sent me a single email from Ramadi, and we appeared to be well connected, but over the next few weeks all of my children’s email addresses and phone numbers went dead, just like every other time I found them since the abduction began.

The shunning remains in effect today. Neither the Family Law or Criminal Law systems in any of four jurisdictions in three states looked at the persons engaged in the abduction, other than my former wife. After filing the initial police report, I was never interviewed by a police detective.


B. Legislative history of Aaron’s Law

1. Reporting the crime to the Legislative Assembly: During the 2001 legislative session, I met with Senator Avel Gordly in her office in the Capitol and described the abduction of my children and the failures of both the Family Law and Criminal Law systems to protect my family. She promised to work on the issue.

In the fall of 2002, Senator Gordly offered me the opportunity to serve as her legislative staff in the upcoming 2003 session.

In the 2003 session, I testified before the Senate Judiciary Committee and the Joint Ways and Means Public Safety Subcommittee. Senate President Peter Courtney appointed the Senate President’s Interim Task Force on Parental and Family Abductions, co-chaired by Senator Gordly and Senator Frank Morse.

The 2004 Task Force on Parental and Family Abductions was intended to build on the prior work of the Family Law Task Force, which had been co-chaired by William Howe III and the Honorable Judge Maureen McKnight, and Judge McKnight was among those appointed to the abduction panel. I testified before the Task Force in 2004.

The Family Law Task Force had worked on strategies to reduce the incidence of divorce in Oregon, including the requirement that both parties enter into counseling before a divorce is granted, in the event that some parties might reconsider for the sake of the children. This idea would be incorporated into Senate Bill 1041 in 2005.

During the 2005 legislative session, I testified on the crime and in support of Senate Bill 1041 before the Senate Judiciary Committee, the Senate Rules Committee, and the House State and Federal Affairs Committee.

Senate Bill 1041 passed the House on a unanimous vote and was signed into law by Governor Ted Kulongoski in 2005.


2. Take Root – Adults who were abducted as children speak: Take Root is an advocacy group whose membership is entirely composed of adults who were abducted by their parents when they were children. Liss Hart-Haviv, the Executive Director and founder of Take Root, was a key member of the Parental and Family Abduction Task Force.


Statement by Take Root:

“Children who are hidden from the justice and child protective systems by a fugitive parent are no less ‘missing’ than children taken by non-family members, and may find themselves in just as much danger. 

“50% of Take Root members who were abducted by parents were also physically or sexually abused by those parents. 

“Almost all suffered profound psychological trauma from being cut off from their loved ones and kept ‘off the grid’ to evade discovery, sometimes deprived even of medical care or, more commonly, schooling.

“However, when society hears about the crime of family abduction it is typically from the perspective of a left-behind parent expressing his or her anguish over having a missing child, or a taking parent justifying his or her actions. 

“Seldom do we have the opportunity to hear, firsthand, from the child about the experience of being abducted. Take Root was established as a platform for the abducted to tell their side of the story.

“It is our hope that raising awareness of the true danger and devastation faced by children who are abducted by individuals to whom they are related will put an end to such cases being dismissed as “custody battles” between parents.

“Take Root’s uniquely child-centered training workshops and resources have proven effective at changing perceptions of family abduction; educating law enforcement, policy makers, child advocates, and missing child case managers from coast to coast about the realities of this devastating crime against children.”

“Nothing can replace the personal and professional experience that Take Root’s workshops present, the focus on the child as victim – which can sometimes get lost in the legal and technical aspects of the case or day-to-day dealings with parents. Liss Haviv’s presentation was truly an incredible experience and scored a perfect “5” on the evaluations – a first since we began the class.”- Ellen Conway, Director, Office of Children’s Issues, US Department of State


3. The Task Force on Parental and Family Abductions (2004)

The Task Force held a series of meetings, took expert testimony, and produced a Final Report to the Senate President prior to the 2005 legislative session.

Among the Task Force’s key findings were:

a. No numbers: that no person or entity knew the number of Oregon children suffering parental and family abductions in any given period of time. No one tracks the cases on a statewide basis. A parent’s report of the abduction of their child likely went no further than the City or the County taking the police report. This is probably still the case.

b. A broad lack of awareness: That there was a general lack of awareness among law enforcement, the courts, the bar and social service professionals, which partially explains the low priority all give to non-stranger abduction cases. This lack of awareness factors into the system’s willingness to allow the abducting parent and the parent’s associates to keep the children indefinitely, and the failure of law enforcement, the bar and court officers to understand that abductions are crimes in progress and respond accordingly.

c. Some parents use their children as weapons: That “often” parents “often” take out their anger with each other through their children, and that some “even abduct their own child.” The Task Force found “that this is extremely detrimental to the emotional and mental well being of the children, and at time may even put the life of the child in danger.” Non-parental accomplices of these crimes are even more likely to disregard the safety and wellbeing of the abducted child.

d. Long-lasting trauma, injury and damage: The real injuries an abducted child suffers is not recognized in current statute. “…the injury a child receives, when the child has been abducted by one of the child’s parents, does not necessarily include physical injury. The injury is more in the nature of mental trauma or mental injury. Nonetheless, the injury is real and may be even more long lasting and damaging than physical injury.”—Abduction Task Force

e. Damage similar to sex crimes against the child: The Task Force recommended that the 2005 Legislative Assembly increase the statute of limitations for Custodial Interference I and II offenses:

“This would mean that the statute of limitations for custodial interference would be the same as it is currently for sex offenses. Your Task Force believes that the rationale for doing this is the same for the statute of limitations on sex crimes. A child who is removed from the lawful custody of one parent by another is a victim. That child is similarly situated to many underage victims of sex crimes. The perpetrator of the crime is the child’s parent. Too often, at the time of the offense, the victim is unaware that they have been abused or that they have a right to seek redress. LC 847 would give a person, who as a child was a victim of a
parental abduction, the ability to seek prosecution when the person is an adult and better able to understand the ramifications of the abduction.” –from the Final Report

While the 2005 Legislative Assembly did not follow the Task Force’s recommendation on extending the statute of limitations, Senate Bill 1041 did address the issue, providing child victims with a window to hold the child’s abductors accountable that extends to six years after the child has attained the age of 18.

4. “Burning Issues in Access to Justice”

The 4th Family Law Conference, titled “Out of the Frying Pan: Burning Issues in Access to Justice”, sponsored by the Oregon Judicial Department and the State Family Law Advisory Committee, was held in Bend, Oregon, April 7-8, 2006.


Workshop #6: Encountering Family Abductions in the Legal Setting. This workshop will offer information about family abductions, including international abductions and the Hague convention, prosecution of custodial interference, and statutory approaches to preventing and dealing with abduction cases including the new Aaron’s Law (SB 1041, Ch 841, Oregon Laws 2005). Dr. Edward Vien, Psychologist, Portland; Hon. Terry Leggert, Circuit Court Judge, Marion County; Liss Hart-Haviv, Executive Director, “Take Root”; Kathy Root, Attorney at Law, Portland; Marshall Spector, Attorney at Law, Portland.



5. Aaron's Law in statute: ORS 30.868


30.868 Civil damages for custodial interference; attorney fees. (1) Any of the following persons may bring a civil action to secure damages against any and all persons whose actions are unlawful under ORS 163.257 (1)(a):
      (a) A person who is 18 years of age or older and who has been taken, enticed or kept in violation of ORS 163.257 (1)(a); or
      (b) A person whose custodial rights have been interfered with if, by reason of the interference:
      (A) The person has reasonably and in good faith reported a person missing to any city, county or state police agency; or
      (B) A defendant in the action has been charged with a violation of ORS 163.257 (1)(a).
      (2) An entry of judgment or a certified copy of a judgment against the defendant for a violation of ORS 163.257 (1)(a) is prima facie evidence of liability if the plaintiff was injured by the defendant’s unlawful action under the conviction.
      (3)(a) For purposes of this section, a public or private entity that provides counseling and shelter services to victims of domestic violence is not considered to have violated ORS 163.257 (1)(a) if the entity provides counseling or shelter services to a person who violates ORS 163.257 (1)(a).
      (b) As used in this subsection, “victim of domestic violence” means an individual against whom domestic violence, as defined in ORS 135.230, 181.610 or 411.117, has been committed.
      (4) Bringing an action under this section does not prevent the prosecution of any criminal action under ORS 163.257.
      (5) A person bringing an action under this section must establish by a preponderance of the evidence that a violation of ORS 163.257 (1)(a) has occurred.
      (6) It is an affirmative defense to civil liability for an action under this section that the defendant reasonably and in good faith believed that the defendant’s violation of ORS 163.257 (1)(a) was necessary to preserve the physical safety of:
      (a) The defendant;
      (b) The person who was taken, enticed or kept in violation of ORS 163.257 (1)(a); or
      (c) The parent or guardian of the person who was taken, enticed or kept in violation of ORS 163.257 (1)(a).
      (7)(a) If the person taken, enticed or kept in violation of ORS 163.257 (1)(a) is under 18 years of age at the time an action is brought under this section, the court may:
      (A) Appoint an attorney who is licensed to practice law in Oregon to act as guardian ad litem for the person; and
      (B) Appoint one of the following persons to provide counseling services to the person:
      (i) A psychiatrist.
      (ii) A psychologist licensed under ORS 675.010 to 675.150.
      (iii) A clinical social worker licensed under ORS 675.530.
      (iv) A professional counselor or marriage and family therapist licensed under ORS 675.715.
      (b) The court may assess against the parties all costs of the attorney or person providing counseling services appointed under this subsection.
      (8) If an action is brought under this section by a person described under subsection (1)(b) of this section and a party shows good cause that it is appropriate to do so, the court may order the parties to obtain counseling directed toward educating the parties on the impact that the parties’ conflict has on the person taken, enticed or kept in violation of ORS 163.257 (1)(a). The court may assess against the parties all costs of obtaining counseling ordered under this subsection.
      (9) Upon prevailing in an action under this section, the plaintiff may recover:
      (a) Special and general damages, including damages for emotional distress; and
      (b) Punitive damages.
      (10) The court may award reasonable attorney fees to the prevailing party in an action under this section.
      (11)(a) Notwithstanding ORS 12.110, 12.115, 12.117 or 12.160, an action under this section must be commenced within six years after the violation of ORS 163.257 (1)(a). An action under this section accruing while the person who is entitled to bring the action is under 18 years of age must be commenced not more than six years after that person attains 18 years of age.
      (b) The period of limitation does not run during any time when the person taken, enticed or kept in violation of ORS 163.257 (1)(a) is removed from this state as a result of the defendant’s actions in violation of ORS 163.257 (1)(a). [2005 c.841 §1; 2009 c.11 §5; 2009 c.442 §26]


V. The principles of Aaron’s Law


Child abduction, causing a child to disappear for any length of time, is child abuse. The consequences can be devastating to the child and the child’s family, with damages accruing minute by minute over months and years. The harm can extend into the next generation. Much of the damage can never be remedied. Deterrence and prevention is vital. Custodial interference statutes are ineffective. The Criminal Law and Family Law systems do not provide an appropriate response to the problem. Victims ought to be able to hold their children’s abductors accountable in civil court. Child victims ought to be able to hold their abductors accountable in civil court once the child has become an adult. No person is exempt from the law.


A. Victims in control, not the system: The Civil Suit

You are the parent of a child abducted by the other parent. You did not see this coming. You do not know where they are, where they are going, if they are using assumed names or many other important details. Your child may have medical issues. You are certain that your ex intends to keep your child from you permanently.

Now you have to convince someone—many persons in a gulag of systems and strangers—that you are not exaggerating, that your child is suffering, that this is an emergency. You must find legal help in at least two state systems.

Having reported the crime to law enforcement and facing the systemic access to justice and lack of awareness issues outlined above, the victim parent, grandparent or legal custodian either enters the Family Law system pro se, or finds an attorney willing to take the case. Family Law attorneys will tell you that they do not practice criminal law. They will work the case as a custody issue.

The Family Law system is a labyrinth of overburdened courts, bewildering forms and procedures, long timelines, requirements that make swift action impossible, and staffed by persons who lack awareness of the difference between a custody fight and a cold-blooded kidnapping.

Law enforcement response to the abduction is subject to statutory issues identified elsewhere in this report, and the fact that no charges will be filed before
prosecutors believe that they have sufficient evidence to convince a jury to reach a unanimous verdict “beyond a reasonable doubt.” The Kyron Horman abduction, now entering its third year, illustrates this point very clearly.

The Criminal Law system is also very rigid in certain respects, and the victim parent may not want to see the abducting parent go to jail, as was the case in the Cruz abduction. . In many cases, incarcerating a parent adds to the ongoing trauma suffered by the child victims.

Neither system offers good, appropriate choices for the victim family.

Filing a civil suit for damages against persons who you can locate, however, who you can prove “by a preponderance of the evidence” instead of “beyond a reasonable doubt” did in fact “take, keep or entice” your child in the course of the abduction, provides abduction victims with a range of options unavailable in either the criminal or family law systems.

Civil suits can be brought forward more quickly also, potentially shortening the time that your child is abducted, and time is of the essence in kidnappings.

With the passage of Senate Bill 1041 in 2005, Oregon became the first state in the nation where abducting a child creates a civil cause of action, the right to sue for damages to your child and your family, and the right of the abducted child to seek redress when the child becomes an adult.

B. Who you serve and 142 reasons why:
           
You probably do not know where your ex is concealing your child and thus cannot serve legal process papers, but you become aware that your ex has assistance in carrying out the crime, whether providing logistical, financial or planning support in taking, keeping or enticing the child.

This person or these persons can likely provide information leading to where your child is being concealed. You file suit under ORS 30.868, Aaron’s Law.

Aaron’s Law is intended to serve as a powerful deterrent to persons considering aiding in a parental, family or organized child abduction. The prospect of defending oneself against liability for “(a) Special and general damages, including damages for emotional distress; and (b) Punitive damages”, as well as attorney’s fees, would discourage many from joining in facilitating a kidnapping.

The Kyron Horman abduction illustrates the concept very plainly.

The disappearance of 8-year old Kyron Horman nearly three years ago triggered the largest search effort in Oregon history. No criminal charges have been filed in the case, and police have released an age-progressed image of what they think Kyron might look like today.

Last seen in the company of his step mom, Terri Horman, the multiple searches turned up no trace of the child. Law enforcement has named no suspects or persons of interest, officially, although those terms most certainly describe Kyron’s step mom Terri Horman and her close friend DeDe Spicher, unofficially.

Both women have stubbornly refused to account for their whereabouts during the crucial two hours on the morning of June 4, 2010, when Kyron vanished from the face of the earth, as did these two women, albeit temporarily in their cases.

With both the criminal and family law courts at a stand still, unable to move forward, Kyron’s mother Desiree Young filed a civil suit against Terri Horman, alleging that the step mom knows where Kyron is and whether he is dead or alive.

DeDe Spicher invoked the 5th Amendment 142 times during her deposition.

C. Domestic violence exception:

No “public or private entity that provides counseling and shelter services to victims of domestic violence” can be sued under Aaron’s Law, nor can parents fleeing domestic violence situations.

D. Counseling for resolution and deterrence:

Borrowing from the Abduction Task Force’s predecessor, the Family Law Task Force, Aaron’s Law authorizes the Court to order “the parties” to the civil suit into counseling directed at educating “the parties” as to the harm their conduct is causing the victim children.

This feature is intended to serve as a tool for both resolution and deterrence.

E. The child victim becomes an adult:

The Parental and Family Abduction Task Force noted the similar trauma in child abduction and child sex crime victims, recommending an increase in the statute of limitations, but no change to the criminal statute has been made. Under Aaron’s Law, however, a child victim has a six-year window to hold persons participating in the abduction accountable, beginning when the child becomes an adult.

This concept is intended to serve in the cause of justice and as an additional deterrent. It also better places the Custodial Interference I and II statutes in the context of the crime, which is a continuing crime, and the persons involved are responsible for everything that happens after the kidnapping is initiated.

F. Protecting the interest of the child:

When a civil suit is filed under Aaron’s Law, the Court is immediately authorized (encouraged) to appoint legal and mental health and other qualified professionals to see to the interests of the child, and to assess the costs to “the parties” as the Court sees appropriate.

This concept results in part from the findings of the Parental and Family Abduction Task Force. The cost assessment feature is intended to act as a further deterrent.

G. Aaron’s Law and child trafficking:

While ORS 30.868 Aaron’s Law has yet to be tested in a child sex trafficking case, it could be a very useful tool in providing resolution and as a deterrent, were it to be better understood by professionals working in that field.


VI. Case Study: The Kyron Horman abduction

“There is no case like this.”

A. “There is no case like this.”

The Kyron Horman abduction is unique in many respects. The missing child has triggered the largest search effort in the history of Oregon, now entering its third year.

It is also the first known instance of a filing under ORS 30.868 Aaron’s Law.

Desiree Young, Kyron’s mother, filed the civil suit on June 1, 2012, as reported in The Oregonian:

 “There is no case like this – even close to these circumstances,” (Multnomah Judge Henry) Kantor said….

…."I will forever have a hole in my heart because he is not here," Young said, shaking as she stood outside Portland's Justice Center and beside respected civil rights attorney Elden Rosenthal.
….The lawsuit argues that Terri Horman "intentionally interfered" with Young's parental rights, and intentionally inflicted severe emotional distress on her. Young shared joint legal custody of Kyron after her divorce from Kaine Horman in 2003.
Rosenthal pledged to aggressively use all the tools afforded to him in a civil case "to peel away the layers of mystery surrounding Kyron's disappearance," and to add more names to the suit if others are responsible. He said he will issue subpoenas for witnesses to testify under oath, and compel the production of documents, such as e-mails and text messages.
"There are some cases that require victims of wrongs to use the civil justice system," Rosenthal said. "This case is one of them."


Kyron Horman’s is the only Oregon abduction case that has lasted longer in the media than a single news cycle. Most parental and family abduction cases never make the news. The families suffer in private, and an abduction case is isolating by its very nature.

Kyron’s disappearance attracted media attention for three reasons unique to the case:

1. He disappeared from his school, attracting attention from parents, teachers and school officials across the state and beyond. Most kidnappers will want to avoid attracting attention.

2. No one else close to Kyron was also missing.

3. Kyron’s stepfather is a police detective. When he was discovered missing, his family had instant credibility with law enforcement, and police were on it in a matter of minutes.



B. On meeting “The Criteria”:

The Kyron Horman abduction is complicated for many reasons. Obviously, law enforcement has not been able to assemble evidence sufficient to move a jury to a unanimous verdict “beyond all reasonable doubt”, which is why no criminal charges have been filed.

This obstacle in the Criminal Law system is holding back both the Family Law process and the civil suit filed under Aaron’s Law.

But most parental and family abductions do not face this obstacle, because there is no criminal proceeding under way and law enforcement is not actively looking for the abducted child(ren).

During a press conference two years ago, the Multnomah County Sheriff was asked if there were any other missing children besides Kyron out there, and the Sheriff responded “none that meet the criteria.”

Whatever “the criteria” is, it is important that both the public and the professionals whom the public relies on for justice and to protect their families understand what the criteria is, what the rules are and how to make them work better.

HB 2014 will provide the 2014 Legislative Assembly with information vital to making the Criminal Law, Family Law and Civil Law systems work better for the benefit of all Oregon children, and for those children who are brought to Oregon under similar circumstances.


VII. Attitudes as Obstacles to Access to Justice
           
“Happy families are all alike; every unhappy family is unhappy in its own way.” –Leo Tolstoy, Anna Karenina

My personal experience as the parent of abducted children is my own, but over the years since I began working on child abduction prevention legislation, several dozen Oregon parents whose children have disappeared with the ex (and the ex’s associates) have contacted me.

In the details of their respective family situations, they each had their own stories. Some were still married to the other parent; some had never been married; some were in the process of divorce; some long divorced. Their legal status was of every sort, and the number and ages of the victim children as varied as can be.

But in the issue of access to justice, all of the stories were the same, the same as mine, we parents of children abducted by known perpetrators.

These grieving parents had all reported the crime to law enforcement, but the police were not looking for their children. They were all in some sort of limbo—at best—with the Family Law system. Some had lawyers at different points in their story, some did not. They all reported problems in finding a lawyer willing to listen, much less help, and all while time slipped away forever.

A father whose non-custodial ex-wife had disappeared with the children in February was told by a police detective the following September that the department couldn’t act because the Custodial Interference statute had no definition of “protracted.” They couldn’t be sure it had reached that point. The children were eventually recovered from Arizona.

These parents had found me through my writing posted on the web. They had gone online desperate for help, for ideas. They had learned about Aaron’s Law and had read it through, but were unable to find a lawyer in Oregon who was familiar with ORS 30.868.

This is why they were contacting me, after all of this had happened. And there was yet a missing child and time was of the essence, and they were clinging to threads of hope.

“Your children will find you some day (Don’t worry be happy)”

In my experience, supported in conversations with these other parents of children abducted by known perpetrators, significant barriers to recovery and in access to justice lie in people’s minds, both in those who people The System and those in the general public, all stemming from the same lack of awareness.

Moving a child during the course of a custody battle is one thing; causing the child to vanish is another. Taking, keeping or enticing a disappeared child that a person is not related to ought to be a behavior that the System especially discourages, and sharply. A person aiding and abetting the taking of that disappeared child across state lines ought to be held accountable.

But there is a tendency for people to marginalize the crime, if not exactly trivialize it. Be patient. It will be OK. People with passive personalities will counsel more patience and an optimistic attitude. Your children will find you some day. Writing off your child’s entire childhood…learn to accept it…your teenager’s entire adolescence…Keep your chin up, someday your grandchild will want to know something about you…People wonder when you will move on.

Caseworkers have big caseloads; department budgets are constrained; No one knows what “protracted” means; most Oregonians cannot afford an attorney….

We ought to know, however, what chain of events takes place when a child disappears, either from Oregon or into Oregon. Please move HB 2014 forward.

Sunday, March 31, 2013

Testimony for the House Judiciary Committee in support of HB 2014, related to child abduction



March 26, 2013

By Sean Aaron Cruz

Oregon State Capitol, Salem, Oregon

For the record my name is Sean Aaron Cruz. I am here today to testify in support of House Bill 2014, and am very grateful for State Representative Alissa Keny-Guyer’s leadership on this urgent issue.

Chair Barker, Vice Chairs Garrett and Kreiger, and members of the Committee, it is good to see so many friendly and familiar faces. I owe many of you my lifelong gratitude for your support of Senator Avel Gordly’s Senate Bill 1041 in the 2005 session, which passed on a unanimous House floor vote.

Senate Bill 1041 has since come to be known as Aaron’s Law, in memory of my late, abducted son Aaron Cruz, and I hope that someday its principles will be applied nationwide. If Aaron’s Law had been on the books in 1995, then my family would be whole and my son still alive.

However, it has been seventeen years since my four children disappeared in an abduction organized by members of a church congregation in three states, and it is my opinion that very little has changed either to deter or resolve non-stranger abductions in Oregon.

I first briefed Senator Avel Gordly to the story of my children’s abduction and to the issue in general in 2001, and she promised to work on legislative solutions. In 2002, she offered me the job as her legislative staff, and I began to work on legislation in the 2003 session, when I testified before Senate Judiciary and the Ways and Means Public Safety Subcommittee.

Ever since the 2003 session, I have been contacted by parents whose children have been abducted by the other parent, which is how I became acquainted with Mrs Charisse Laverdiere, who has traveled from Southern California to speak with you today, and their stories all have similar elements, like mine. Mrs. Laverdiere is the most recent of several dozen parents who have contacted me for advice over the years.

We are all parents of children who have been abducted by known perpetrators.

We have gotten no help from the police in large part because the children are with a parent, but there are also several statutory and institutional factors that contribute to the inaction of law enforcement and that continue to stand in the way of the recovery of our children and many others like us.

We parents of abducted children can’t find a lawyer willing to listen to our stories or who might be familiar with the issue of non-stranger child abduction in any real sense of legal expertise. I never met one. Family lawyers will tell you they don’t practice criminal law.  They want to frame it as a custody issue. If the parent can get into court, with or without a lawyer, the judge is no help, and court processes can grind out over years.

And yet there is still a child missing, a child suffering terrible abuse, emotional abuse that amounts to torture. These parents start looking for help on line and that leads them to me, from all over the state since 2003.

The status quo in 1996 when my children were abducted is much the same status quo today.

We are here today, Mrs Charisse Laverdiere and I, to describe to you the chain of events that have taken place in our lives as parents whose children were abducted from Oregon by known perpetrators.

(to Mrs Laverdiere’s testimony)


With Aaron’s Law, Oregon became the first state in the nation where abducting a child creates a civil cause of action, providing new tools to deter and resolve non-stranger child abductions. It is now more than seven years after its passage and still no information about the statute appears on the Oregon State Police Missing and Exploited Children Clearinghouse website, and last summer its first known application came in the Kyron Horman case.

I have no idea how a citizen whose child has been abducted or who is in danger of being abducted would learn that the law exists or how it might be applied. It’s buried in the ORS where only a lawyer could find it.

The Kyron Horman abduction is unique in several ways. It is the largest search effort in the history of the state, and is at the same time probably the only non-stranger abducted child that Oregon law enforcement is actually looking for.

During a press conference two years ago, the Sheriff was asked if there were any other missing children besides Kyron out there, and the Sheriff responded “none that meet the criteria.”

What is the criteria, exactly? What chain of events take place when a child is reported missing or abducted? What does it take for a parent of an abducted child to be taken seriously by the Oregon State Police? Who knows?

The 2004 Senate President’s Interim Parental and Family Abduction Task Force found that no state agency—and therefore no one—knew how many Oregon children were abducted in any given period of time, because no one was tracking them. They estimated the number at several thousand, but no one knew for sure. These facts are in the Task Force’s Final Report.

I’d like also to call the Committee’s attention to the news release from the Beaverton Police Department dated May 16, 2012. More than a dozen police agencies and other governmental agencies in the US, New Zealand, Australia and Canada were involved in recovering this child, and yet the Oregon State Police is not one of them, and no information about this child, missing since December 2010, was ever posted on the OSP Missing and Exploited Children’s Clearinghouse. What is the criteria?

There are other cases where children who have been parentally abducted from Oregon are identified on the National Clearinghouse for Missing and Exploited Children, but not on the OSP website.

What is the criteria? What is the chain of events that take place in Oregon when a child is reported abducted by a known perpetrator?

We urge your strong support for HB 2014.

Additional comments and recommendations

The 2004 Task Force on Parental and Family Abductions identified several systemic and institutional problems, among them:

(1) That “often” parents “often” take out their anger with each other through their children, and that some “even abduct their own child.” The Task Force found “that this is extremely detrimental to the emotional and mental well being of the children, and at time may even put the life of the child in danger.”

(2) The real injuries a child suffers is not recognized in current statute. “…the injury a child receives, when the child has been abducted by one of the child’s parents, does not necessarily include physical injury. The injury is more in the nature of mental trauma or mental injury. Nonetheless, the injury is real and may be even more long lasting and damaging than physical injury.”

(3) That there was a general lack of awareness among law enforcement, the courts, the bar and social service professionals, which partially explains the low priority all give to non-stranger abduction cases. This lack of awareness factors into the system’s willingness to allow the abducting parent to keep the children indefinitely, and the failure of law enforcement, the bar and court officers to understand that abductions are continuing crimes and respond accordingly.

(4) No person or entity in Oregon knew the number of non-stranger abduction cases originating in Oregon, because no agency was tracking them; there was no system to track them; A parent’s report of the abduction of their child likely went no further than the City or the County taking the police report. This is probably still the case.

Time is everything. But no one is interested. The court processes take no interest in the issue of time, the value of time in the life of a child.

No one understands that a crime is being committed, multiple crimes. The abduction of your child drains every last emotional reserve and financial resource you have.

My four children disappeared from Oregon in a church-sponsored abduction on February 12, 1996, during the Great Storm of that year, organized by Mormon church officials in three states: Oregon, Washington and Utah.

At a time when I-84 through the Gorge and I-5 at Tacoma were closed due to landslides and flooding, when my children’s friends and classmates were safe at home or in school in Washington County, members of this church group, I came to learn later, were holding my kids in a motel on the Oregon coast. They waited for the storm to clear and then took my kids to Utah, where fellow church members concealed my kids in a series of locations east of Ogden, Utah, intending to keep them from me permanently.

The Custodial Interference statute states:

ORS 163.245: “A person commits the crime of custodial interference in the second degree if, knowing or having reason to know that the person has no legal right to do so, the person takes, entices or keeps another person from the other person’s lawful custodian or in violation of a valid joint custody order with intent to hold the other person permanently or for a protracted period.”

And

ORS 163.257: “A person commits the crime of custodial interference in the first degree if the person violates ORS 163.245 and:
      (a) Causes the person taken, enticed or kept from the lawful custodian or in violation of a valid joint custody order to be removed from the state; or
      (b) Exposes that person to a substantial risk of illness or physical injury.”

The statutes make no exceptions for the other parent, family members or members of a church congregation.

My son Aaron died in Utah, alone and sick and without the medical attention he had needed for years, and my three surviving children continue to live in church enclaves, completely contained within my former wife’s church. The people who abducted my children got exactly what they wanted. All this despite an order for joint custody that had been in effect for five years at the time of the abduction.

Abductions have beginnings but no real endings. The damage is life long. I don’t think that there is such a thing as a happy ending, all the more reason to take steps to deter people from abducting their own children, which is the whole point to Senate Bill 1041, Aaron’s Law, and why HB 2014 is not only necessary but urgently necessary and important.

Recommendations:

[] Define “protracted” in the Custodial Interference statute. The lack of a definition contributes directly to the inaction of law enforcement. How lengthy a head start should a kidnapper have? What is a reasonable period of time?

[] Add child abduction to the statutory definition of domestic violence.

[] Recognize the abducted child’s mental and emotional injuries in statute and actual practice. Prioritize deterrence and access to medical resources.

[] Recognize abduction as a “continuing crime” in statute and actual practice.

[] Recognize that parental abductions often involve multiple perpetrators. Hold them all accountable, which is normally the case in property or violent crimes.

[] Require local law enforcement to pass all reports of missing or abducted children to the State Police Missing Children’s Clearinghouse.

[] Add a synopsis of Senate Bill 1041 Aaron’s Law to the OSP Missing Children’s Clearinghouse and elsewhere.

[] Recognize nontraditional family relationships in the Custodial Interference statutes.

[] Improve education and awareness throughout the state, beginning at the state bar, law enforcement and the courts.

Attachments: Beaverton PD news release, May 16, 2012

Tuesday, March 05, 2013

New child abduction bill in Oregon House


By Sean Aaron Cruz
March 5, 2013

Portland, Oregon

State Representative Alissa Keny-Guyer (D, Portland, House District 46) has introduced legislation calling for an Oregon State Police study of the issue of children abducted both from and to Oregon.

HB 2014 is the first legislation on the issue since the passage of Senate Bill 1041 (Aaron’s Law) in 2005.

Representative Keny-Guyer’s bill addresses the issue of parental, family and church-sponsored abductions in several important ways, and I want to underscore the fact that when your child disappears, every barrier and everything that delays or prevents the recovery of your child matters, every minute of every day matters, and it will matter for the rest of your and your children’s lives.

(1) HB 2014 calls on the Oregon State Police to report on “the chain of events that take place when a child is reported to law enforcement officials as missing by the parent, grandparent or legal custodian of the child.”

Under existing laws and practices, law enforcement and court officials ignore reports of missing/abducted children from grandparents and non-custodial parents.

Yet, all too often, children are abducted by family members in situations where the parents are still married or were never married, and thus there is no custody order.

And there are often cases where it is a grandparent who is actually raising the child(ren), but has no standing in court.

HB 2014 brings the whole of the child(ren)’s family into view, and asks the question, “What chain of events takes place….”

(2) HB 2014 calls on the Oregon State Police to report on “the chain of events that take place when a child is reported to law enforcement officials as having been brought to Oregon in violation of a lawful custody order issued by a court of competent jurisdiction in another state.”

There has been no prior study on this issue, what happens when a child is abducted from somewhere else and brought to Oregon.

(3) HB 2014 calls on the Oregon State Police to report on “any progress that has been made in conducting investigations” of children abducted to or from Oregon since the issuance of the final report of the 2004 Senate Interim Task Force on Parental and Family Abductions.”

The 2004 Senate Interim Task Force on Parental and Family Abductions built on prior work by the earlier Task Force on Family Law, which sought to reduce the incidence of divorce in Oregon.

Among the findings of the Task Force on Parental and Family Abductions was the shocking realization that no state agency knew the number of non-stranger child abduction cases occurring in Oregon, because no one tracks them. The Oregon State Police made promises to the legislature in 2005 that they would do so in the future.

The 2004 Task Force on Parental and Family Abductions laid the groundwork for Senate Bill 1041 “Aaron’s Law” in 2005. With the passage of SB 1041, Oregon became the first state in the nation where abducting a child (violating the Custodial Interference I statute) creates a civil cause of action.

Aaron’s Law provides parents of abducted children with new tools to deter and resolve cases where parents or family members or members of a church congregation engaging in a shunning have abducted a child in the state of Oregon.

Here is the full text of HB 2014:


77th OREGON LEGISLATIVE ASSEMBLY--2013 Regular Session

House Bill 2014
Sponsored by Representative KENY-GUYER; Representatives BARTON, GARRETT, KRIEGER

SUMMARY

Requires  Department  of  State  Police  to  conduct  study  on issues related to abduction of children. Directs  department  to  report  results  of  study  to  interim 
committees  of  Legislative  Assembly  related to  crime  on  or  before 
November  1,  2014. Sunsets January 2, 2015.

Declares  emergency,  effective  on  passage.

A BILL FOR AN ACT

Relating  to  the  abduction  of  children;  and  declaring  an  emergency.

Be It Enacted by the People of the State of Oregon:

SECTION 1. (1) The Department of State Police shall conduct a study of:
(a) The chain of events that take place when a child is reported to law enforcement officials as missing by the parent, grandparent or legal custodian of the child;

(b) The chain of events that take place when a child is reported to law enforcement officials as having been brought to Oregon in violation of a lawful custody order issued by a court of competent jurisdiction in another state;

(c) Investigation procedures related to violations of ORS 163.245 and 163.257; and

(d) Any progress that has been made in conducting investigations described in paragraphs (a) to (c) of this subsection since the issuance of the final report of the 2004 Senate Interim Task Force on Parental and Family Abductions.

(2) The department shall report the results of the study to the interim committees of the Legislative Assembly related to crime on or before November 1, 2014.

SECTION 2. Section 1 of this 2013 Act is repealed on January 2, 2015.

SECTION 3. This 2013 Act being necessary for the immediate preservation of the public peace, health and safety, an emergency is declared to exist, and this 2013 Act takes effect on its passage.

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Link to Representative Keny-Guyer’s web page:


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Oregon Governor Ted Kulongoski signed Senate Bill 1041 (Aaron’s Law) with my son’s picture on his desk in 2005




Monday, November 26, 2012

The Wisdom and the Moral Authority


By Sean Aaron Cruz

Portland, Oregon

“Please tell Sean that I also wish him the best. I have also followed his career and believe his personal experience has given him the wisdom and the moral authority necessary  to make a real difference in making Oregon safer for our children.” –Judge Jim Fun, Washington County Circuit Court, January 24, 2007

I received this message from Judge Fun’s judicial assistant. He was writing in regard to the work I had done on the issue of child abduction since my four children disappeared into Utah in a Mormon kidnapping in 1996. Each year, more than 200,000 U.S. children are abducted by their own parents, family members or persons known to the family, as in church-sponsored abductions.

Judge Fun knew the issue and my family’s case very well. In 1997, he had been the Assistant District Attorney who prosecuted the 1st degree Custodial Interference case against my former wife, which came to trial nearly a year and a half after my kids had disappeared, and who were still being held incommunicado in Utah at the time of trial. He had noticed during jury selection that the defense referred to a Washington County LDS church roster, and that there were a number of Mormons on the jury. You know how that turned out.





But Judge Fun was writing about what I had done since then, after the failures of both the criminal and family law systems in the wake of the abduction of my children, with that experience and with that moral authority:

The first and most important thing I accomplished was to stay alive, to survive.

I’m a writer, an essayist and a blogger, so I wrote and I blogged, posting a couple of hundred essays over the years. I had alerted and informed Senator Avel Gordly about the issue long before she hired me to serve as her legislative staff in 2003. That year, I testified before the Senate Judiciary Committee and the Joint Ways and Means Public Safety Subcommittee, and Senate President Peter Courtney appointed the Senate President’s Interim Task Force on Parental and Family Abduction to examine the issue and report its findings to the 2005 legislature.

I testified before the Task Force in 2004, describing how both the family law and criminal law systems and an order for joint custody had failed to protect my children and my family. The fact is these systems fail in non-stranger abduction cases far more often than they succeed, which explains the high numbers.

The Task Force found that the experience of abduction by any person is harmful to the child, and as abusive as any other form of child abuse. The consequences of this abuse are life long.

In 2005, Senator Gordly assigned me to lead the workgroup on her landmark Senate Bill 1041. In that legislative session, I testified before the Senate Judiciary Committee, the Senate Rules Committee and before the House State and Federal Affairs Committee as we moved SB 1041 through the building.

The bill went through ten major rewrites on its way to passage on a dramatic, unanimous House vote on the last day of the 2005 legislative session. It immediately became known as Aaron’s Law, in memory of my late son Aaron Cruz, who had died in Payson, Utah, earlier that year, a direct consequence of his abduction and forced immersion into Mormonism.

With Aaron’s Law (ORS 30.868), Oregon became the first state in the nation where child abduction creates a civil cause of action, providing kidnapping victims with new tools to see justice served, and real deterrents to abducting a child in the first place.

Now, in 2012, Aaron’s Law is seeing its first usage in the Kyron Horman case, first such case in the nation, a civil lawsuit for the crime of custodial interference in the 1st degree.

I’ve written extensively about the particulars of Aaron’s Law at www.blogoliticalsean.blogspot.com and www.AaronsLaw.blogspot.com

Earlier this year, I took my son Aaron’s name as my own middle name.

So, all this to say that many of my readers who know me through my work on issues other than child abduction and who are unfamiliar with the story of the abduction of my children may think that I might be unfair or exaggerating where I refer to Mormons and Mormonism, but I want you all to know that I am speaking from experience and with moral authority.





Monday, October 29, 2012

Aaron's Law in statute: ORS 30.868


Are your children and grandchildren protected from parental, family, church-sponsored or other non-stranger abductions? Only if the child(ren) is(are) abducted from Oregon.

Talk to your legislators and Congressional delegation. Here is the model legislation:

30.868 Civil damages for custodial interference; attorney fees. (1) Any of the following persons may bring a civil action to secure damages against any and all persons whose actions are unlawful under ORS 163.257 (1)(a):

http://www.leg.state.or.us/ors/030.html






Wednesday, October 24, 2012

Aaron's Law at work: Taking the 5th 142 times



By Sean Aaron Cruz

October 24, 2012

Portland, Oregon

The disappearance of 8-year old Kyron Horman more than two years ago triggered the largest search effort in Oregon history. No criminal charges have been filed in the case, and police have released an age-progressed image of what they think Kyron might look like today.

Last seen in the company of his step mom, Terri Horman, the multiple searches turned up no trace of the child. Law enforcement has named no suspects or persons of interest, officially, although those terms most certainly describe Kyron’s step mom and her close friend DeDe Spicher, unofficially.

Both women have stubbornly refused to account for their whereabouts during the crucial two hours on the morning of June 4, 2010, when Kyron vanished from the face of the earth, as did these two women, albeit temporarily in their cases.

Earlier this year, with both the criminal and family law courts at a stand still, unable to move forward, Kyron’s mother Desiree Young filed a civil suit against Terri Horman, alleging that the step mom knows where Kyron is and whether he is dead or alive.

As reported in The Oregonian yesterday, DeDe Spicher invoked the 5th Amendment 142 times during a recent deposition.


Spicher declined to answer any questions posed by Young's lawyers on Oct. 5 that involved Terri Horman, Kyron's stepmom, or Kyron -- each time asserting her Fifth Amendment constitutional right not to incriminate herself. 

Spicher also declined to answer questions about where she was on June 4, 2010. 

"Are you aware that Kyron Horman has disappeared?" asked Young's lawyer, Elden Rosenthal. 

"I'm asserting my Fifth Amendment right," Spicher replied, according to a transcript filed in Multnomah County Circuit Court. 

Spicher even declined to identify a photo of Terri Horman, or whether she knew Terri Horman's husband, Kaine Horman, Young, or had ever met Kyron. 



This civil suit is authorized by Senate Bill 1041 (2005), known as “Aaron’s Law” for my late son Aaron Cruz, who died earlier that year as a consequence of his abduction from Oregon in 1996.

With the passage of Aaron’s Law, Oregon became the first state in the nation where child abduction creates a civil cause of action, providing family members with new tools when law enforcement and the courts fail to act, and yet there is a child missing.

The civil suit filed by Kyron’s family is the first under Aaron’s Law, and thus first in the nation. “There is no other case like this,” the judge hearing the suit said, and as this process moves forward, there will be many places where precedent will be established and challenged.

Already there is the question of whether a person (Spicher) can take the 5th in civil court to shield another person (Terri Horman) when neither has been charged with a crime or has been named by law enforcement as a suspect or person of interest.

Aaron’s Law is triggered when a person violates Oregon’s Custodial Interference I statute by knowingly and wilfully “tak(ing), entic(ing) or keep(ing) a (child) from the (child’s) lawful custodian or in violation of a valid joint custody order.”

A violation of Custodial Interference I is a Class B felony, good for up to five years in prison, but the statute is rarely enforced.

Historically, there is a high degree of certitude that a parent or family member who abducts their own child will suffer few consequences, and those only after court processes that stretch out for years and drain every economic resource and emotional reservoir available to the family.

Aaron’s Law is designed to change these circumstances.

My own four children disappeared into Utah in an abduction organized by Mormon officials in three states, and despite an order for joint custody that had kept their lives orderly and secure for five years prior to their abduction.

Aaron’s Law is designed to reach anyone, any person or organization, who provides logistical, planning, financial or any other support to the abduction of an Oregon child, through a civil process.

The civil suit empowers Kyron’s mother to depose witnesses, and DeDe Spicher, who is not a family member, unrelated to Kyron Horman in any way, connected only through Terri Horman, is about to become a very public example of the power of Aaron’s Law.

This is how Aaron’s Law will eventually have a deterrent effect.

I hope that the principles of Aaron’s Law will be enacted in every state, protecting every child in the nation. Abducted children are very nearly always taken out of their home state, and international abductions have been trending upwards for years.

If you participate in the abduction of an Oregon child, be prepared to squirm and reach for that Fifth Amendment. Think about whether it is worth it before you act.

Aaron's Law is waiting for you now.

~~~~~

Sean Aaron Cruz, serving as Oregon State Senator Avel Louise Gordly’s chief of staff, led her 2005 workgroup on parental and family abductions, which culminated in the passage of Senate Bill 1041 on a dramatic unanimous vote in the Oregon House of Representatives.




Oregon Governor Ted Kulongoski signs SB 1041 “Aaron’s Law”


Thursday, August 02, 2012

Mother of missing child Kyron Horman claims Constitutional rights



Governor Ted Kulongoski signed Aaron's Law in 2005
 Desiree Young, whose 7 year-old-son Kyron Horman was kidnapped more than two years ago, filed motions in Multnomah County Circuit Court today, arguing that the civil case should be heard, and that further delay would violate her constitutional rights.

Terri Horman, stepmother of Kyron Horman and the defendant in the civil case, has filed a motion to abate the civil proceedings for at least two years, asserting that her constitutional rights under the Fifth Amendment are threatened.


And thus, the opening salvos in the Kyron Horman civil suit will address issues of rights guaranteed by the US and Oregon constitutions.


This civil suit is the first filed under Oregon’s landmark 2005 child abduction statute, Senate Bill 1041, known as “Aaron’s Law”, which provides child abduction victims with new tools when the criminal and family law systems are unable to move forward, and yet there is a missing child.



Under Aaron’s Law, Oregon became the first and (so far) only state in the nation where abducting a child (violating Oregon’s Custodial Interference in the First Degree statue) creates a civil cause of action.


Thus, everything that happens going forward in the Kyron Horman case will be first in the nation.


Local Portland news channels are beginning to devote more resources to understanding the issues that will be at trial, and there will be many.


KGW-8, for example, consulted with Tung Yin, a legal scholar at Lewis and Clark Law School in this story filed by Nigel Duara of the Associated Press:

http://www.kgw.com/news/Kyron-Hormans-mother-fights-lawsuit-delay-164788256.html


The story includes a link to the legal arguments filed today.


Aaron’s Law was written with Constitutional rights in mind, including the right to parent your child without criminal interference from third parties, and the child’s right NOT to be abducted by ANYONE, including friends, neighbors, hangers-on, church groups, and other criminal associates.


The nation’s criminal and family law systems treat the issue of time, the value of time in a child’s life and in the child’s relationships to parents and family, as if time has no importance.

Both systems also provide few tools or options for victims, who are usually put in the position of helpless spectators to processes that are failing to produce a missing child.


Aaron’s Law provides new tools to resolve and deter child abduction cases.


Aaron Cruz died in Payson, Utah from long term medical neglect, abandonment and heartbreak in the course of his Mormon abduction and the shunning imposed on his father by officials in the Mormon Church.


Aaron’s Law also recognizes that many child abductions involve multiple perpetrators, and is triggered by the Oregon Custodial Interference I statute that reaches to any person who takes, entices or keeps a child wrongfully, who provides planning, logistical or financial support to the abduction.


Aaron’s Law followed on the work of the Senate President's 2004 Interim Task Force on Parental and Family Abductions, and was informed by Sean Aaron Cruz’s personal experiences as the father of four children who disappeared from Oregon in a Mormon abduction that began in 1996.

Sunday, July 29, 2012

Understanding Aaron's Law, pt 1: The Trigger

 
By Sean Aaron Cruz
July 29, 2012
Portland, Oregon—

The recent civil court motions in Multnomah County in the Kyron Horman kidnapping case are the first filings under Aaron’s Law since the statute was enacted in 2005, when Oregon became the first and only state in the nation to create a civil cause of action for the crime of Custodial Interference in the First Degree.

The number one reason that it has taken so long for a case to be brought forward under Aaron’s Law is because so few people know it exists.  That is about to change, is already changing now.

There are a lot of people close to the Kyron Horman case looking at a completely new application of law right now, intruding at a time when both the criminal and family law systems are failing and time is marching on, and yet a child is still missing, and note the use of the word “intruding.”

Fewer still understand how Aaron’s Law works. The Kyron Horman case is the first of its kind in the nation, and there will be a great many legal precedents set here as the process outlined under Aaron's Law unfolds.

Attention is about to go nationwide. Believe it! There is a presidential election at stake, with a Mormon candidate. This is gonna be good! God does move in mysterious ways, and in this presidential election, He is gonna punish the wicked!

You bet Aaron’s Law is an intrusion!

Aaron’s Law was written for times like these!

Aaron’s Law gives a parent the power to intrude, the power to assert some control into a system that is failing to produce a missing child and that forces a parent to sit on the sidelines and wait, to wait perhaps forever.

Nothing works in a kidnapper’s favor more than delaying proceedings, two years so far in the Kyron Horman case.

This is a good time to explain the law:

Oregon’s landmark anti-kidnapping statute, Senate Bill 1041 “Aaron’s Law”, is triggered when “a person” commits the crime of Custodial Interference in the First Degree.

1. Who: Note that the statute applies to “a person,” making no exceptions.

“A person”…”any person”…”each person”…”every person”…all the same. This reaches to all of those religious zealots and hypocrites out there...a church shunning can very well be a kidnapping.

2. What: DO NOT take, entice, keep (or conceal) a child in violation of these criminal statutes.

“A person commits the crime of custodial interference…if, knowing or having reason to know that the person has no legal right to do so, the person takes, entices or keeps another person from the other person’s lawful custodian or in violation of a valid joint custody order with intent to hold the other person permanently or for a protracted period.”

3. Where: DO NOT remove the child(ren) from the state of Oregon.

4. Why not: DO NOT expose the child(ren) “to a substantial risk of illness or physical injury.”

Abduction by any person—including a parent—is known to be as abusive to the child as any other form of abuse, and is often the gateway to other forms of child abuse.

If Aaron’s Law had been on the books in 1995, then my son would still be alive today, and my family unbroken.

Here are the key elements of Oregon’s Custodial Interference laws:


ORS 163.257 Custodial interference in the first degree.

(1) A person commits the crime of custodial interference in the first degree if the person violates ORS 163.245 (Custodial Interference in the second degree) and:

(a) Causes the person taken, enticed or kept from the lawful custodian or inviolation of a valid joint custody order to be removed from the state; or

(b) Exposes that person to a substantial risk of illness or physical injury.

(3) Custodial interference in the first degree is a Class B felony.


ORS 163.245 Custodial interference in the second degree.

(1) A person commits the crime of custodial interference in the second degree if, knowing or having reason to know that the person has no legal right to do so, the person takes, entices or keeps another person from the other person’s lawful custodian or in violation of a valid joint custody order with intent to hold the other person permanently or for a protracted period.

(3) Custodial interference in the second degree is a Class C felony.

~~~~~

Sean Cruz is the father of four children who disappeared from their Oregon homes into Utah in a Mormon abduction in 1996.

He led the legislative work group on Senate Bill 1041 in 2005, which provides the statutory basis for the civil action filed by Kyron Horman's family.

The bill followed on the work of the Senate President's 2004 Interim Task Force on Parental and Family Abductions, and was informed by his personal experiences as the father of four children who disappeared from Oregon in a Mormon abduction that began in 1996.

SB 1041 became known as "Aaron's Law" in memory of his late son Aaron Cruz (who died in the course of his abduction) at the same time that it passed the House on a unanimous vote, and Governor Kulongoski signed the bill into law with Aaron's photograph on his desk.

Having fought through four jurisdictions in three states against a phalanx of Mormon lawyers who used every trick in the book to delay proceedings in the case of the Cruz kidnappings, Aaron's Law anticipated where the Kyron Horman case would be today.

They are going to remember you now, son....



Wednesday, July 25, 2012

On becoming a racial slur, leading grown men to greatness and the shame of a nation

By Sean Aaron Cruz
July 24, 2012

Portland, Oregon—

A story about a young man’s aspirations to become a racial slur appeared in the Washington Post recently.

It is difficult to understand how a talented, intelligent young person with such strong family, church and community supports could go so far wrong, and without resorting to crime, substance abuse or gang activity.

But what is so shocking about the story is that those very supports were what set him on his course in the first place, what guided him to aspire to wear such a shameful label, and despite the fact that they were all strongly committed to notions of civil rights and the dignity of all people.

His church, family, school and community together shaped his attitudes and understanding of racism, just as they are shaping the next generation of children to also shamelessly aspire to be a racial slur when they grow up, to be a professional racial slur.

Being employed as a racial slur in the United States can pay really, really well and bring great status far and wide, particularly since the company is located in the nation’s Capitol.

The Post described the young man’s journey to greatness as a racial slur: “But through it all, the son of two retired Army sergeants has pursued one mission above all others: Becoming a Redskin. And not just a Redskin, but someone who can lead grown men to greatness, reward the faith the organization has shown in him and live up to the expectations of a fan base that has come to see him as nothing less than the franchise’s savior."

The Post quoted the young man: "...Griffin laughed, he later recalled, but he was dead serious about his message: I want to be a Redskin."

The American continent's original racial slur is enshrined in the nation's capitol as "one of the most valuable franchises in US pro sports."

And it is to the shame of us all.

http://www.washingtonpost.com/sports/redskins/becoming-a-redskin-robert-griffin-iiis-journey-from-texas-to-washington/2012/07/20/gJQAg5LCyW_story_1.html"

Monday, July 23, 2012

There is a sound in the City of Portland, a name in the wind


There’s a sound in the City of Portland
There’s a name in the wind….

By Sean Aaron Cruz

July 23, 2012

Portland, Oregon—

There’s a sound in the City of Portland, a name and a calling….

The Community is beginning to call that name, emailing that name, FB-circulating that name, already committing to write that name down on their ballots under the category, “Mayor of the City of Portland,” and to put those ballots into the mail.

When you think about the qualifications you would like to see in the person moving into the Mayor’s office next January, the person who will become our City’s Ambassador-in-Chief, our next Police Commissioner, and you had the opportunity to write the best-qualified person’s name down on your ballot, well, the name in the wind is none other than Roy Jay.

The Community is calling your name, Roy.

Roy Jay. Roy Jay is the man for the time. I’ve known Roy Jay as a friend and colleague for more than fifteen years.

And he has my vote for Mayor of the City of Portland.

Roy Jay has helped thousands of people turn their lives around through Operation Clean Slate. These are real numbers. See for yourself here:



I know that Roy Jay is currently residing in a home that is 16 blocks outside of the Portland city limits, but the thing is the house is up on that hill and he can see Portland from his porch!

Those of us who know Roy Jay know that Roy Jay has traveled the world on behalf of the City of Portland and worked tirelessly on behalf of the whole city for his entire life, and we know that Roy Jay has never left the City of Portland.

So, I am going to forgive Roy Jay for this minor indiscretion and write Roy Jay for Mayor on my ballot and let the courts sort this thing out in November.

 

Sunday, July 15, 2012

Love Notes and Sweet Spots



By Sean Aaron Cruz

July 14, 2012

Portland, Oregon—

I grew up in the sweet spot of middle class America.

In terms of geography, in a small town county seat on the edge of the Central Valley amid fruit orchards and vast fields of cucumbers and tomatoes, less than an hour away equidistant from the cosmopolitan wonders of San Francisco by either the Bay or Golden Gate Bridges.

While the fishery within San Francisco Bay was already dying, there was still enough fish in the nearby Pacific Ocean to sustain a real working fleet and Fisherman’s Wharf was worthy of its name, boasting a truly world class open-air fish market. You had to see it, to smell it, to touch it, to know how special this was, how sweet.

In terms of weather, one could hardly do better, anywhere, than Fairfield California (except for the prevailing winds that were reliable enough for the USAF to want to build Travis AFB there east of the town). Those winds would never turn into hurricanes or tornadoes, but could surely drive a person to the brink of low-intensity insanity.

In terms of education, in a time when California set the standard, a truly world-class system from k-12 through an array of community college and university options, before the rise of Reaganism and the passage of Proposition 13 which together eviscerated the system. It was a time when the nation invested in educating its young and valued its professional teaching infrastructure.

I played trumpet in school bands from the fourth grade on, and every school in the state had a band. A student never doubted that there would be band next year, nor art nor drama nor debate club, and so on….

In terms of American history, the UC Berkeley campus and the San Francisco Bay Area were Sweet-Spot centers of the Free Speech and Civil Rights movements, and the generation ahead of me did much to change the framework of American politics for generations to follow.

I came of age in the Summer of Love, the Sweet Spot of American sexuality, a time when the Pill was in common use and HIV and AIDS infections yet unknown, and before the epidemic of hard drugs, cocaine in particular, ended the glory days of Woodstock and the Haight-Ashbury.

You had to be there, I think, to know how sweet this time was. We will never see those days again.

In terms of music and culture, there was the Fillmore and the legendary Bill Graham, and there was the Avalon Ballroom and all of those incredible game-changing bands, all in the context of the aforementioned sweet spot of American sexuality and the political and social struggles of the time.

The long deadly wars in Viet Nam and across Southeast Asia, the involuntary draft, Nixon and Reagan in the White House,and the ongoing struggle to gain basic civil rights across the nation were the obverse of the Sweet Spot, the bloody, hate-mongering incarnations of selfishness and evil, but there was plenty to be happy about.

To drive your girl into San Francisco with the top down, the windows open, pioneering album-oriented FM radio providing the sound track (sometimes with an LSD boost), an infinite array of adventures lay ahead, and it was truly a Very Sweet Spot to be in….

I was blessed to grow up in a Sweet Spot of family values also, having parents who cared for my brother Dana and I more than anything else in the world, who always ended a note or letter to us with the same word, “Love”, and who very nearly always ended conversations the same way, with the words “I love you.”

Our Dad, John Paul Cruz, died suddenly of a heart attack in July 1975 at the age of 52. He had suffered a brutal chest injury a few years prior in a high-speed collision while on duty as a patrol officer with the Solano County Sheriff’s Office that cost him his career, and afterwards a series of heart attacks. Surgery techniques that could have saved his life did not become available for another couple of decades.

My father’s abrupt death ended the Sweet Spot for me, wiped the smile off of my face for a long, long time.

I lost interest in being a musician that summer, sold my guitars and amps, kept only the beat-up trumpet my folks bought for me in the fourth grade and the trumpet I used to gig with, and would not play in a band again or in public for more than twenty years.

I lost my anchor when my father passed.

Within a few months of his death, I had transitioned from pot-smoking, wine-drinking happy-go-lucky psychedelic University student Chicano hippie musician who had only occasionally encountered cocaine, to self-medicating self-destructive Chicano-looking-for-adventure-in-the-course-of-maintaining-a-habit-of-coke-and-hard-liquor.

I lost my taste for wine. Wine would not get me where I wanted to be fast enough, and scoring cocaine in high-risk situations replaced the adrenaline rush I used to get from performing in public.

I came to hate the person I had become, and dealt with that tension by overwhelming it with cognac, tequila and Miami Vice-level cocaine usage and related risky behaviors. This did not make matters better in any way. There were many times that I thought I might be dying from an overdose.

This period came to an end when my wife and I became parents with our first born child in 1978, both of us still severely addicted to cocaine and the fast lifestyle that came with it, but determined to be real parents.

It took a couple of years for us to clean up permanently, a process of leaving behind probably 90% of our friends and all of our acquaintances, but that we did do, and our children never experienced any part of the dependency years.

My parents were fabulous parenting role models, and my children and I always ended our conversations with the words “I love you.”

My mom wrote about this years later, after my four children had disappeared into Utah in a Mormon abduction, about how often she had heard my children and I speak those words, and how often she would see them in the notes and letters and cards we wrote to each other.

Mom had herself grown up in a household where those words were rarely used, she wrote. Her own mother had died of pneumonia when she was just twelve, and her father was abusive, a man whose death she did not mourn. I have long ago forgotten his name.

I was able to recover my son Aaron from the Mormon abduction in 2003. He was the only one of my four children that I was able to make any contact with after their disappearance into theocratic Utah, and that only a few times.

The Mormons were very effective in preventing contact and communication between my children and I, and claimed in all sorts of court documents, as I fought for contact through four jurisdictions in three states, that my children and I had never had any real relationships.

Most of the letters I mailed to my children in the wake of their abduction were intercepted by Mormons both in Utah and by Evelyn Taylor, the Mormon Relief Society President in Hillsboro Oregon. Although my children were abducted to Utah from their home in Hillsboro, mail addressed to them was forwarded not to Utah, but to Evelyn Taylor’s home.

Checks my mother and I sent to my children went uncashed and unreturned.

And the Mormons did not allow a single letter, note or card from my children to leave Utah.

This is how a Mormon shunning works. All contact is forbidden.

But Aaron and I always ended our conversations with the same words, “I love you”, and “I love you too.”

Our notes and letters to each other also ended with the word “love”.

That is the story of this note below, this exchange of love notes between Aaron and I in 2003, on a day when I left early for my job as Senator Avel Gordly’s chief of staff during the 2003 legislative session.

It began with his admonition to his friends Abby and Justin (who were both also badly in need of rescue), “Don’t throw away this juice.”

I added a $20 bill with the words “Love, Dad.”

Aaron wrote his reply, “Thank you, Love, Aaron.”

Later, I attached our mutual love note to the front of the refrigerator with two “Kids Need Both Parents” stickers, where it remains today.